Life as a
teenager – Jasmine Paul
Life as a
teenager isn't easy at all...
We stare in
the mirror wishing to be someone different when we're all unique
We're still
learning and trying to understand life.
We make
mistakes which can only be forgiven, regretted but never forgotten.
We fight over
stupid matters which could have been avoided.
We criticise
but don't like being criticised.
We hate
people without knowing their stories.
We get
misunderstood, people only understand from their level of perception.
Our minds and
our hearts are always fighting and rarely do our hearts win.
We take
drastic steps without thinking and realising what damage it does.
We are
underestimated just because we are still “children”.
When at our
age its finding yourselves.
We are all
dreamers
And all want
to achieve something.
Goodmorning
everyone.
In my 10 years
at Eden, about 7 of those have been spent with Grade 7s. So I think
I’ve gotten to know this age pretty well...which will hopefully
help me to be more understanding of my own children as they get to
this stage in their life.
Because adults I
think, forget what it was like to be teenager and how to deal with
the behaviour and moodswings. Parents become confused and fear them;
teachers get annoyed with them and every day seems like a battle.
Let me tell you...the battle has just begun. Your sweet, angelic
child who may have just turned 13 and might not be a problem
yet...has another 6 years to go!!
So maybe we need
to just sometimes, take a step back and think about what they are
going through and try in the far back of your mind, try and remember
what it was like for you as a teen. You’re always tired –
afternoon naps were the best – especially when studying for exams;
girls are usually emotional – boys are hormonal too. New things
are happening to your body and horrible bumps appear out of nowhere
all over your face. You are sensitive about everything and no one
understands! In fact, even though adults endure everything from work
problems to debt, no period of your life comes close to being as
difficult as your teenage years.
So this
morning...My name is Mrs Williams and I speak for the Teens
Everything is
changing both physically and emotionally and yet they are thrust in
to the most intense situations of their young lifes, discovering
heartbreak, anxiety, low self esteem and peer pressure along the way.
In defence of all teenagers out there, here’s the proof that those
of us who have emerged out of the other side should be far more
understanding of them.
There are
huge expectations
Get straight A’s
in matric and get into a good University or your life is over! The
terror of failing and facing a bleak future of no income and no pride
results in sleepless nights and serious spells of anxiety
Hormones and
puberty
While this pressure mounts against them to do well, their bodies are
trolling them. One minute they're angry, the next they’re tearful
and you just don’t know why. Teenagers aren’t awkward and
confrontational by choice, even if they are treated that way. Our
good friend science has proven that mood swings are a biological part
of growing up.
And as their
emotions take on that rollercoaster ride, they’re sprouting pus
filled blimps on their faces, gaining and shedding puppy fat from
nowhere, growing hair in strange places, smelling quite pungent from
their armpits and girls have to deal with their own set of problems
Bullying
Fellow teenagers
can be so cruel. Bullying goes on at all ages and in all locations
but the intensity of it during school years can be seriously
traumatic and there are very few people that escape those years
without falling victim to it. With peer pressure forcing you to
conform to standards and hobbies or face a backlash, teenage life is
a minefield.
Add in the
social media factor and it’s difficult to get through youth without
being scarred by bullies
And then
there is ‘Love’
That
first love is just agony – and nothing else from school to family
matters once their heart has decided to launch itself at someone.
Longing for someone takes over their lives and they think they’ll
never love someone so intensely again. When that first relationship
breaks down you just want to give up on life
Independence
and privacy
They get told to
act more mature but they still tend to get treated like a child.
While a lot of the mollycoddling is necessary, there is a distinct
lack of privacy for teenagers who are desperate to assert and enjoy
some independence.
So lets cut the
teenagers some slack please and stop moaning about them all the time.
They have a lot to deal with.
The Grade 7s of
2017...have said – we must be your worst class ever..you wont miss
us...but of course i will. I love all the children I teach like my
own – yes there are those that test your patience, or get into
trouble a lot but that doesn’t mean I wont miss them. I must say at
least I have been pretty entertained this year. I myself am guilty of
saying they are so childish or immature..but is that a huge problem?
Let them enjoy themselves for as long as they can...they won’t be
children forever. As Mrs Carini pointed out to me one day – the
Grade 7s are always happy...yes they are loud but they are just happy
and glad to be here...and if thats the case then that makes me happy
too.
Now they have
been hounding me from the first day...what their end of year story is
going to be...what am I going to say = no pressure!! So here it
goes....please excuse my poor accents.
Picture
this: You walk into your classroom in the morning....its
silent....all the children are in their seats reading a book or
finishing off work....no nonsense taking place at all. Well that is
exactly the opposite of how I would describe my class.
A
day in the life of 7W 2017 goes something more like:
Mrs
Williams enters the classroom – Hellllo Mrs Williams – shouts
Jasmine
You
look so lovely today Mrs Williams – thanks Annabelle
Mrs
Williams can I help you with something – no its fine thanks –
actually please write on the board to remember to return forms by
tomorrow – thanks Jordan
Mrs
Williams here is my diary – theres a letter from my mom. Ok thanks
Keshme – you are the only one who still hands in their diary every
day....well done.
A
loud bang somewhere from the back – Viday – get off the shelf!
Sorry Mrs Williams.
Yes
I know you’re an acrobat but if that shelf falls on top of you
whose going to be in trouble?
What
was that noise?? Nickyle? I never do nothing Mrs Williams. Ok
Nickyle then what did you do if you did nothing? Huh?
Rivan?
No I was just trying to figure out how this thing works and I
mistakely dropped it.
Well
sort out this mess. Where are you going? To get a broom from
Goodness.
Mrs
Williams...whats the time? I dont know – get a watch Kannon. How
many more minutes till the end of the lesson? Kannon- the lesson
hasn’t even started yet!
Oh
– well can I quickly go and ask Mr Mack something?
Just
sit down please. Now I’ve marked everyones essays and I’m still
missing marks. Do you think I feel like marking all the time!
Uzziel?
Wheres yours – uh I can I hand it in tomorrow Mrs Williams. I'll
bring you 1 cupcake
Wandile?
Uhm its here somewhere....(and she pretends to look in her bag.)
Daniel?
Uhm Mrs Williams – funny story – uhm my dog actually ate my
homework
Samir?
Uh im pretty sure I handed it in? Yours must be the one without a
name then
Let
me just check....mmmm yup thats definitely mine
Where
is my black pen?? Whole class shouts....SYUN!!! Not only does Syun
like collecting other peoples stationery apparently – he will
always be the one to eat more than 2 cupcakes or chocolates at
birthday times – although looking at him you would never say so.
Njabu
are you with us or are you still on the soccer field? “I love
soccer – I love soccer” Hmm what? Nooo I’m focused.
Ok.
Mrs
Williams can i go to toilet and drink some watert? Yes Uzziel go to
the toilet.
Mrs
Williams!!! Watch this please! Come Karu – coming! (Jasmine and
Karuna spontaneously dancing is the norm – followed by a lot of
giggling from Karuna)
Kala
Tashma, Kala Tashma!
Come
Diya! Karuna shouts
No
ways, you guys are so embarrassing – like Indian music is just not
cool guys – not cool
Mrs
Willyams – I think I’m dying. Is it possible to die from
embarrassment – I think it is.
Uhhm
pretty sure its not.
Really!
Have you seen the car I come to school in Mrs Willyams.
Ok
well maybe I see your point
What
– ok thats fine them we’ll all just die and haunt you forever.
Wonderful.
Guys!
All I want is just 5 minutes to read my book in peace!
Sorry
Wandi – you know I’m just weird
Andi!!
No, leave me im busy. Nothing comes between me and my pizza! Like
you don’t even know, I will kill for this pizza – its just, not
gonna happen
Another
loud bang
WHAT
NOW! Nickyle! I never do nothing
Uzziel?
It wasn’t me
Rivan?
No it wasn’t me this time, I think it was Brady
Hey
shut your mouth
Brady!
Sorry Mrs Williams
What
are you doing? I told you not to practice your bowling skills in the
classroom!
Karsten?
Whats happening with the hair? One day red, then purple, now blue?
Whats next?
I
think I wanna make it white
Oh
my word
Why
can’t you all just be quiet like Serini! She’s either reading
her book or writing beautiful poems.
Life
would be boring without us though Mrs Williams isn’t! What is that
awful sound? Viday! Will you stop singing please!
The
bell! Finally. Has everyone cleaned up their area?
Kannon! Pick that paper up. This row can go – Wandile! Tidy your area. And where is your essay – um...scratches in her bag again. Njabulo! I love soccer – yes? I love soccer – your area! Right the rest can go. Bye Mrs Williams!!
Kannon! Pick that paper up. This row can go – Wandile! Tidy your area. And where is your essay – um...scratches in her bag again. Njabulo! I love soccer – yes? I love soccer – your area! Right the rest can go. Bye Mrs Williams!!
Hello
Mrs Saayman!!! Loud cackling and high fiving from Nickyle and Uzziel
– can’t imitate it – its too weird
The
door closes – and silence at last.
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